GET HOT!

things you can do to keep warm when it’s pouring outside–

uno. trade in that mocha frappe for a hot cup of coffee while exchanging stories with your best friend.

dos. be a darling and cook a hearty meal for your beloved parents.

tres. invite your friends over and beat the pitter patter of the rain by taking turns singing on the videoke machine.

quatro. stay awake in this cold weather by bringing out old board games and allowing your little brother to take the first turn.

HIGH 5 on how to keep a relationship long and real:

one. TRUST is really essential in keeping a relationship alive.

two. Give the relationship essential/importance. Show him/her you really care and spend time with him/her.

three. Encourage and inspire him to always do and be his best.

four. Don’t force your partner to change. learn to live with the little quirks.

five. Fight obstacles TOGETHER. never give up!

HIGH 5: reasons why we should love music–the Universal Language:

Music has different types to suit your every mood.

Music helps you loosen up and develop other skills like dancing or singing.

TOP 5 THINGS EVERY FRIENDS GOTTA HAVE

1. a box of tissue. for those i-need-a-shoulder-to-lean on moments and for all the tearjerker chick flicks you love to watch together.

2. a prepaid fone card on stand-by, for those times when you feel like you’re going to explode if you don’t text your best bud!

3. a pint of ice cream. for those emergency guy-bashing and crying sessions that always turn out to be memorable laughing sprees.

4. a pack of dental floss. for that day when you and your best bud finally go out with those hotties…and pesto gets stuck between your teeth.

5. a phone directory with complete listing of all the fastfood delivery numbers. for those emergency i’m craving for-_________ sessions.

nothing ever will be the same

“Nothing will ever be the same.” That’s the nature of “loss”.

I always say this line from the day after the burial. Yes, everything was so different. Different in so many ways, the relationships and our ways of living as well. But we are very blessed from the comforts given by friends and relatives. If you have been reading the bible, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”

My strength, courage, hope, most especially my faith…even sanity has loss, too. I have to borrow from someone’s supply until my own comes back. Thanks to the people I disturbed for their companionship…I maybe sometimes mistakenly as bad influence to some parents as even in the wee hours of the night, I still call and even came up to my friends house to offer them a cup of coffee at starmart. (Thanks to starmart for 24hours service!)

I hate it when I remember mum. It’s a big loss for me…very big loss for all of us. And I forgot that there’s someone greater than mum I missed out…It’s hard to remember that one of the “some ones to love” is God. That someone continues to love us today and will through every tomorrow.

I can cry and feel the same release, but it doesn’t change things. I can scream “Why?” but I never get a real answer. I know dud’s trying his hard to let us understand everything and accept the fact that mummy wont be longer with us. And I now for a fact that even he would try harder to let us understand, he, himself had also had a hard time accepting it. They were just more than partners in life, they were not just husband nor wife. I can tell my story over and over, but it doesn’t take away the source of the pain. There is no answer or solution to, no reversal of these things called death. Ultimately, I must come to acceptance even it’s so hard.

The anger that comes to the surface after a loss is significant and real. I can become..or I am angry at doctors, family members, well-intentioned friends, God, even the person I grieve…yes. I also get mad with mum. I know she can hold on to, I know she can do it. I know how strong she is to survive..get well. She is not the type to easily surrender. I know all of this is natural, honest anger, but needs to be appropriately expressed so that it doesn’t hurt me.

“If only I had…I should have…Why didn’t I?” When suffering loss the questions and “what ifs” can be maddening. I can so question events, so wonder about how things could have been different, that I begin to take guilt for things that were really beyond my control. No one is perfect, I know, and mistakes may have been made, but blaming myself for the tragedy ultimately does nothing but weigh me down with unnecessary burdens. Work and home responsibilities and even for myself is affected. They could never see it; But deep inside, I am weak.

I have to restart my life again. Restart life with small steps, “baby steps”. Depressions? I never think about it. Whenever I feel sad, I went out with friends for awhile to loosen myself. But when I come home, it would never be gone.

“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation”-Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet. Saying goodbye is never too easy, and saying goodbye for good is even more difficult. It’s natural for us to want those we love to remain with us always. Acknowledging that someone is gone forever is very painful part of the grieving process.

I have ajournal from the day of my mum’s buriall. I have ended it up so that I can restart my life once again and accept the realities that, physically, mum’s not with us anymore. Although saying goodbye is an act of separation, the depth of love insures that some things continue forever through memories, through events, through other people. Saying goodbye doesn’t mean letting go of all of this; it means rather, recognizing both that which has been taken from us and that which can never be taken from us.

I love my mum so much. She may never knew that, but deep inside, I have kept it from her. It is no secret that love is stronger than death. That is something to celebrate. The life I shared with mummy is also something to celebrate, to remember, to be thankful for. I won’t hide the hope and joy I may eventually feel that my loved one now is in a place of eternal joy…and I know she is with God’s comfortable embrace.

Dear Mum,

I miss you so much. I wish you were here with me right now. And, somehow, I know you are. Though my heart will always have an empty place inside it, I will furnish it with memories of the love we shared. You’ll always live in me and I in you, and nothing can sever the bond between us.

helen of troy?

Helen of Sparta was perhaps the most inspired character in all literature, ancient or modern. A whole war, one which lasted for ten years, was fought over her. Not only that, nearly all the myths of the heroic age were threaded together in such a way that this most idealized of all wars was the culmination of various exploits, including the Argonaut, the Theban wars, and the Calydonian boar hunt. It is as though this event was in the destiny of every dynasty formed from the beginning of things.

Helen, the face that launched a thousand ships has also launched a thousands of friends. uhmmm….uhuh! Im speaking of another Helen here and thats one of my loveliest and closest friends. Helen Mae…yes, she does have many friends. Others might mistakenly knowing her to be different but shes not. She does everything normally and enjoy life as it is.

Like Helen who have that tantalizing enigma, Helen has also the mystery of one artist deep inside. A talented advertiser, an eye for photography and has broad shoulders to lean on. Artist, commonly mistaken as wierdos..Helen as she is, is wierdo on her own way of continuing life’s struggle to success, enjoyment, friendship.

mai tsainis frend

她的名字是 luisa。她看起來中國的但是她不是一個。她有那個最長名字，但是我不會提及用於她可能變得發瘋的。她有那小的眼睛，當她微笑和笑時，它消失 … 但是不是不可思議的。
她喜歡吃東西和小雞是她的親信。 uhhhmmm … 她喜歡吃東西，非常！!食物使她變得瘋狂 … 她有那個胃口我們 dont 有。 uhuh！但是她不得到脂肪。她是苗條的，她是高的 .. 呀，呀 … 像其中一個一樣天橋和全部 … watcha 電話他們？uhuh，模型！!
她嚴重，無論如何，她笑話多數時候。她喜歡使海倫發癢。我們總是喜歡做那。她喜歡吸引人 .. 其中很多是卡通畫和美麗的女人！!!她喜歡在課小時期間畫她的朋友。但是呀，她在課堂討論期間聆聽，我猜測？!hahah！她是我們的學校紙藝術家。她畫那美麗的 carricatures 和那接待的卡通畫我們。
現在，我們總是關於我們的侄子分擔 … 多麼可愛他們是，如何他們打電話給我們 … 等等等等我們還交流 — 聊天，文字 … 我們舒適彼此在我們的問題和一切上。她是這支歌曲說明的一個典型的朋友 –
「冬天，春天，夏天或下跌
你必須做的全部是電話，
以及 il 是 theeerrreee，是的我希望 .. 我得到一個朋友。」

her name is luisa. she looks chinese but she is not one. she has that longest name, but i will not mention for she might get mad. she has that small eyes, that when she smiles and laughs, it disappears…but it is not magic.

she likes to eat and chicken is her favorite. uhhhmmm…she likes to eat, very much!! food makes her crazy…she has that appetite we dont have. uhuh! but she never gets fat. she’s slim, she’s tall..yah, yah…like one of those who does catwalks and all…watcha call them? uhuh, models!!

shes serious, anyhow, shes funny most of the time. she likes to tickle helen. we always like to do that. she likes to draw..most of it are cartoons and beautiful women!!! she likes to draw her friends during class hours. but yah, she does listen during class discussions, i guess?! hahah! she is our school paper artist. she draws that beautiful carricatures and cartoons that entertains us.

now, we always share about our nephews…how cute they are, how they called us…etc. etc.  we still communicate–chat, text…we even share books we read–how we get excited with the stories and all! we comfort each other on our problems and everything. she is a typical friend this song describes–

"winter, spring, summer or fall

all you got to do is call,

and il be theeerrreee, yes i will..i got a friend."

questions? anyone?

Your Superhero Profile

Your Superhero Name is The Cosmic Samurai Your Superpower is Kissing Your Weakness is Color Purple Your Weapon is Your Strobe Shield Your Mode of Transportation is Elephant

…if i am a superhero, this is me!!

You Are Homer Simpson

You’re just an ordinary, all-American working Joe… With a special fondness for pork rinds and donuts. You will be remembered for: your little "isms" and philosophies on life Your life philosophy: "Weaseling out of things is important to learn. It’s what separates us from the animals … except the weasel."

…if i am a simpson…i am bart!!

On Average, You Would Sell Out For

$333,707

this much?

Your Porn Star Name Is…

Cumisha Jones

….porn star, huh?

Your Kissing Technique Is: Perfect

Your kissing technique is amazing - and you know it. You have the confidence to make the first move. And you always seem to know what kissing style is going to work best. Sometimes you’re passionate, sometimes you’re a tease. And you’re always amazing!

…now, this is me!!!

You Are 35% Left Brained, 65% Right Brained

The left side of your brain controls verbal ability, attention to detail, and reasoning. Left brained people are good at communication and persuading others. If you’re left brained, you are likely good at math and logic. Your left brain prefers dogs, reading, and quiet. The right side of your brain is all about creativity and flexibility. Daring and intuitive, right brained people see the world in their unique way. If you’re right brained, you likely have a talent for creative writing and art. Your right brain prefers day dreaming, philosophy, and sports.

….definitely me! now, you know me.

Oprah’s advice

~ Advice from Oprah about men ~

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t "be friends".

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary…not supplementary. Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.